Defriending: Navigating the Friendship Breakup
Dr Faith G. Harper
Defriending: Navigating the Friendship Breakup is self-explanatory as far as titles go. This zine takes you not only through options on how to do it but why it’s so damn complicated.
As a general rule, relationships DON’T last until death do us part… And when they don’t last, we have no fucking clue how to deal.
The thing about the zine that I appreciated the most is that it acknowledges the muddled greyness of the ‘are we or aren’t we’ middle space of the defriending zone. It’s not pretty, and this zine doesn’t try to make it so. As someone who is trying to figure out the best way to do the whole ‘defriending’ thing, it’s nice to have the reassurance that it’s as messy as it seems to be.
Don’t think this zine is going to throw you a pity party. Friendships involve two people, and Dr Harper gets into your responsibilities – whether you’re the defriend-er or the defriend-ee. The real lightbulb moment in this happened for me when Dr Harper got into the difference between whether something is a one-off event or indicative of a person’s personality. (What they did vs who they are.)
This zine ended up being a lot more complicated and involved than I thought it would be but, having read it, I realise that’s a very good thing.
It’s all about completely unexpected mail this week!
I wouldn’t call myself a big Simpsons fan (I was never able to catch it much on TV), but I love this postcard. I love the colours, the artistic quality to it, and I love that Chris from New Jersey sent it just to say thanks for the zines I sent to him. So nice!
It got a little beat up on the way, but The Life and Times of Billy Roberts #76 made it safe and sound to Australia! Corridorgirl shared a picture of an earlier issue of this months back, and I loved the idea of a life newsletter that skips the envelope. Lo and behold, now I get to check it out!
I love such creativity and colour filling my post box. Thank you so much!
Spring is trying to happen here in Victoria…
*I’ve set up a Zine Events Calendar page for all sorts of zine fests and other zine-related events around the world. It’s very basic right now and is definitely a ‘when I have time’ project. That being said, if you have anything that you’d like to be added to the page, please let me know.
*I’ve also set up a Zine Resources page that has things like links to zine distros, zine libraries, other zine makers, etc. The same goes for this page in terms of how often it’ll be updated (for the time being), and I appreciate any suggestions.
*I’m now finally caught up on emails, comments, etc up to about this past weekend. (So I’m about as behind as I usually am.)
*I’m getting caught up on the snail mail side of things. I am truly sorry to anyone I owe anything to. It’s long enough a wait for things without having to wait on me as well.
*You know that blog post series that I mentioned a while back? Well, I can never do things by halves, and it’s turning out to be a huge project. So I’m still working on it, but it will turn out to be a good resource for beginners.
*If you hadn’t already heard, We Make Zines – the place for all things zine – is closing down at the end of this month due to a dramatic rise in cost. I’m not able to do much, but if you know about coding and site migration, be sure to stop by this thread and let Quasifesto know that you’re willing to help out.
*I’m actually dreaming of moving away from Etsy as a shop front, as it’s looking like Etsy is one of the more expensive places to run a shop front…
Do you identify as queer or trans in some way shape or form? Do you make art of some kind? Most importantly, do you love Halloween? Then I want your submissions!
Give me your comics about sapphic witches, your short stories about genderfluid ghosts, your poetry about the full moon or true stories about adventures with talking boards. I want this zine to highlight artwork of LGBTQIA persons and celebrate the awesomeness of Halloween! You are more than welcome to use a pen name and I will gladly accept work that you already have.
All contributors will get a copy!
Email submissions to elliottjunkyard(@)gmail.com // deadline October 15th.